Does it feel soothing to constantly rant about your problems to others? Sure, we all need an outlet, need to vent. And of course it is great to have someone who’s supportive when we feel like sh*t. Even so, you can only whine up to a point, beyond which it crosses the too-much border and you face the risk of becoming addicted to complaining. Attached to this are the misery and events that take residence in your head. This is especially true of grief and disappointment. There is research to prove this. In fact, for some people, pain is equal to pleasure. I am thinking of a relative who was happiest when she was unhappy. It is probably because it feels better to feel something, even if it is pain, rather than feeling nothing. Reality bites, eh? Then there are people who rely on the drama they build up to feel “alive”, attract attention and give themselves a sense of importance. They just cannot help sharing their problems repeatedly every time they meet someone. Thing is, talking about those problems continually can make them appear worse than they actually are. Every time we talk about a lousy experience, we live […]
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