Our neurotransmitters, brain chemicals, serotonin, dopamine, GABA, melatonin, etcetera are affected by our biology, diet, inflammation in systemic circulation as well as our stress response. Basically, when a child or adult becomes stressed or traumatized, they go through a circumstance that provokes the adrenal glands to secrete adrenaline and cortisol. And like children when we get stressed and traumatized, we don't have to release that stress and trauma – it's stored in our nervous system.
Many of us felt very guilty when it related to our parents. And maybe some of this is unconscious for you too but just starting to tap into what kinds of things come up for you when we talk about these topics. And also, I wanted to make a quick note on talking about interpreting familiarity as love as opposed to love is love and whatever you were familiar with growing up, whether that was emotions like anxiety, stress, and feelings in your nervous system or heightened senses of worry, those kinds of things. If that was what was familiar to you, you may make that be love in your life as opposed to love being a completely different thing. So just something to think about if that's something that you're still struggling with within your journey. learn More: