When a couple says “I do,” they promise a lifetime of sharing.
Sharing their happiness, sorrows, blessings, and emotions. Only their bodies separate them, but their souls are one. It is a sacred and beautiful relationship. But building and maintaining this relationship from scratch is a challenging feat. It's an art that requires patience, compassion, and, most importantly, understanding.
A lasting marriage not only stands on love and promises; it requires communication, honesty, and respect. If you ask a 50-year-old couple the secret to their eternal union, they will have a similar answer. New couples need to embrace this in order to make their relationship work and the “Happily ever after” dream come true.
Discover the Secret to Your Happily Ever After
Here are some basic principles that can make your relationship strong enough to withstand the test of time.
Honesty Is the Best Policy
The most obvious yet challenging principle to lead a blissful marital relationship is honesty.
A couple has to be transparent about what is going on in their life. They need to be vocal about their feelings to prevent problems arising in their relationship. Honesty does not have to be a forced course of action; it is about how much you respect your spouse and how willing you are to be your true self with them.
Honesty and respect go hand in hand in a successful marriage. A relationship whose foundation is laid on honesty is far better than one rushed by the pressures of the world, like the tumultuous marriage between Kendrick and Adianna in the book, Bearing The Blades. Although there were sparks flying and strong feelings taking root between them, the dishonesty from Adianna's elders made it a bitter bargain for the both of them.
Prioritize – Know What's Important in Life
Yes, immersing yourself in your career ensures you can retire comfortably, but what if you don't have anyone to accompany you? It will be depressing and lonely. Therefore, it is crucial to maintain a work-life balance. You must be selective over what and who you make essential in your life. Although there are hierarchies to these priorities, the number one should remain your spouse and your family. Prioritizing a weekly date night can make all the difference.
Prioritizing your spouse makes them feel heard and valued. It is a form of emotional and moral support boosting their self-esteem and love for you. Marriage means sharing responsibility and protecting each other from adversity in every way possible without leaving them in the dark. It is a way of showing that your feelings are pure and reliable.
Tyger Price also portrays this principle in her book, Bearing the Blades, where Kendrick and Adianna are doing their best to become reliable, protective partners for each other.
Don't Sweat the Small Stuff
Don't let the little things drive you crazy. Spend your energy on things that really matter. Be attentive to your partner's feelings rather than only thinking about your own. It is important to be heard, but sometimes it is better to keep the peace rather than argue over who must be right. Continuous conflicts and debates can weaken the trust and camaraderie of a relationship.
It's always good to have some fun along the way; you can use humor and kindness to make things work. Tune in to each other's feelings to find the best course for building this connection. It can be as small as leaving a “feel good” note on the breakfast table or drawing a ketchup heart on the omelet plate. Or you can go the extra mile and bring them flowers, a book, or any small gift to show you appreciate them. Learn what means the most to them.
Ready to implement these basic principles to make your marriage work? Adianna and Kendrick are striving to do the same in the book Bearing the Blades: A fantasy fiction romance narrating the story of an unlikely union where one is destined to fight, and the other has been running away from war and bloodshed. Will they find their peace and resolve in each other, or will their love remain an incomplete story? Find out in Bearing the Blades, available on Amazon.
