6 Ways How to Deal With Erectile Dysfunction In A Relationship!

Your Partner Has ED – Here’s How to Deal!

ED abbreviated as Erectile Dysfunction, commonly known as impotence, can be disturbing, even shattering, to a man.

But it can be equally troubling or upsetting for his partner as well as Kathy (one of those facing such situation) found out.

Our relationship experts spoke with Kathy (who recently broke off an engagement with a man who suffers from ED) to find out the things that affect her sexual bond.

Take a look at what she said….

“It really undermines a relationship and makes the things more difficult when the man blames his partner for this.” (As her fiancé did)

She further added…

“Even though my fiancé has always had the difficulties with the erections, but then he always blamed me for this saying that it was my fault. After you hear that enough, you start to believe it which as a result badly affect your self-esteem.”

According to Karen Donahey, Ph.D. (director of the Sex and Marital Therapy Program at Northwestern University Medical Center in Chicago),

“That’s not unusual. A woman may struggle with the belief that she’s no longer attractive to her man.”

“Even if the man assures her partner it’s not true, there’s still worry there.” – He added.

The stronger a women’s pride is, the less threatened she’ll feel by her partner’s erectile dysfunction and the more understanding she’ll be able to be.  – Donahey stated.

If you’re reading this article, your man suffers from ED (Erectile Dysfunction), and you are looking for the solution…

How to deal with erectile dysfunction in a relationship?

Or,

Husband has ED how do I cope?

Or,

My boyfriend has erectile dysfunction what should I do?

First of all, I want you to know that in a relationship, Erectile Dysfunction is a very common issue. It’s something the majority of men over the age of 25 struggle with, at least intermittently.

This shit isn’t easy for men. Having a partner who responds with all lover and support plus looking for positive strategies is sincerely a remarkable gift.

So, how can you do things differently?

In other words, what steps can you make to support your partner dealing with erectile dysfunction?

Without further ado, here are 6 tips for how to help impotent partner/ helping your man through erectile dysfunction.

What To Do When Your Partner Is Dealing With Erectile Dysfunction?

#1: Always Be Loving and Supportive

Sympathy is the most important tool that you can deploy here. If he can’t get hard, respond with your understanding, patience, and affection.

At that moment, deep down he’s secretly worried about upsetting you and negatively affecting what you think of him.

Your partner might fear that you dislike him and are not satisfied with him.

Also that you’re thinking of leaving him for someone who satisfies all your sexual needs.

You can combat that knee-jerk emotional reflex by gradually expressing your unconditional love to your partner.

In this situation, very few men met with total positivity and acceptance.

And even when they are, they may have trouble actually feeling it and receiving it.

Our most vulnerable and sensitive moments are opportunities for deep healing.

This would definitely be one of them. Being loved through his erectile issues may even help solve the problem.

At the very least, it will massively diminish any sense of insecurity and concern around the issue.

Be kind. Be present with him. Chill out for a minute.

Then switch it up from a place of love and exploration, rather than trying to fix or repair something.

#2: Find other ways to be with your partner at the moment

Sex is a primary way men connect emotionally with their partner.

Feeling like that means of connection has been undermined or sabotaged can be incredibly frustrating.

This can bring up sadness and/or anger for the ED sufferer.

An erection is part of sex, but it’s definitely not everything.

Find other ways to connect with your partner.

For example:

Do oral not in an attempt to make it hard, just to let him feel some pleasure and receive your energy (he may be a little too sensitive and stuck in his head to enjoy this, but encourage him to breathe and simply receive whatever pleasure he feels)

Ask him to go down on you for a while or, do some of the tips/techniques/exercises

#3: Don’t take it personally

It’s not about you. Don’t go on a head-trip worrying about what you did wrong, or whether or not you turn him on.

The voices might be saying something like:

“He’s not attracted/into me…”

“I’m not sexy enough for him…”

“He’s bored with me…”

This is rarely ever the case. If he’s with you, he’s with you for a reason.

In fact, it’s more often the case that he so badly wants to get it up/is so attracted to you, that this intention overshadows his ability to relax and be in his body.

In its simplest form, if your partner is between the ages of 20-60, intermittent erectile dysfunction usually comes down to high-stress levels and/or cardiovascular issues.

Indulging in your own insecurities, while he’s neck deep in his, creates two triggered people who are (at best) silently caught up in their stories, and (at worst) lashing out at each other and making each other wrong to mask their pain.

This sets up an incredibly volatile situation where neither person is able to hold space for the other, or truly listen, usually resulting in mutually hurt feelings and disconnection.

Whether it’s the right thing to do or not, men invest so much personal stock in their ability to please their partner and perform in the bedroom.

Men are raised to believe that their worth comes from what they do, rather than who they are.

Not being able to get it up makes them feel inadequate like they’ve failed at the one thing they should be able to do – help make you happy.

Since sexuality is the most vulnerable and intimate arena of a man’s lives, erectile issues can trip our deepest core wounds around self-worth and lovability.

As you’ve probably noticed, they can get very sensitive, melancholy, or even defensive when this comes up (or, rather, when it doesn’t come up).

Do your best to remember this at the moment. Set your story aside and get curious about his thoughts and feelings.

Men aren’t exactly notorious for their emotional literacy, so it may take him some time.

#4: Formulate A Plan

Ask him what he wants if it happens again in the future.

What would make him feel good and at ease about the situation?

Some guys might want to talk, while others might want to just focus on pleasuring you. Another may want to exchange messages for a while.

Everyone will be different. But only they can know and speak for themselves.

It’s possible he won’t have any ideas and feel a bit lost. Just lay with him, or ask if you can experiment a little bit.

Let him know that you’re always open to trying something, and it would make you happy to know if there’s anything you can do.

In the end, know that you’re an amazing partner, and you are not alone.

Millions of couples around the world deal with ED every single day.

Stay open and be patient. The solutions will fall into place in time.

#5: Talk About The Issue

It’s nice to take initiative and try creative solutions, but it’s usually best for both of you if you don’t play any guessing games.

Ask him if he needs anything from you, or how you can help him relax. He may just want to voice what’s on his mind, cuddle, or distract himself from sex a little altogether.

If you’re having feelings of unworthiness or frustration come up in response to him not getting it up, it might be best to save that conversation for another time.

The primary thing most guys will be feeling in this situation is a shame. It’s a very sensitive place to be.

This is the time to help him work his way out of it, not risk pushing him further into it.

In such a delicate place, he might tend to make your message mean that he’s a burden, or wrong in some way, for having this issue.

If he’s preoccupied with that, he won’t have the capacity to fully hear you out and give the conversation the attention it deserves.

Use some non-sexual leisure time to broach the subject and voice your feelings.

Don’t point the finger, simply state your inner dialogue and ask for support.

Maybe you need him to assure you he loves you, or perhaps you want him to consider a mutual solution.

#6: Encourage Your Partner To Be Proactive With His Health

Erectile dysfunction can be created (or exacerbated) by unhealthy habits like smoking, drinking alcohol, eating high amounts of processed foods, or lack of exercise.

If your partner smokes or drinks, encourage him to break these habits.

If he rarely/never exercises, start making date nights around sharing physical exercise together.

Ultimately, what is good for his heart health is good for his penile health.

And what is good for his health is good for your shared sex life.

Besides, if he is carrying excess stress in his body, regular exercise will not only make his overall cardiovascular health better, it will also make his mind healthier.

In other words, he’ll be less prone to getting anxious about performing in the first place, and when his penis doesn’t rise to the occasion.

He’ll be less likely to get down on himself about it since his mind will be more relaxed, to begin with.

Hope you have found the solution for ED. If you have any further question or queries, you can comment below or can text us on our FB Page: https://www.facebook.com/malexpill

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