Seven Pointers to my younger self.

Truth be said, no matter  who doles the advice, my younger self would definitely not listen.  Like all teenagers, I knew I was invincible think of it, a teenager cannot be born  a teenager cannot die  a teenager is essentially a bundle of confused energies shooting all around the place and like all energies teenagers can only change shapes, sizes and manifestation to become jaded sedate middle aged men and women..  It is only then the fear of failure and loss emerges, as for the teenager well they have not yet started … that puts failures and losses for a distant future.

Coming back to the Reverend who wants me to advice my younger self,

Every well wishing aunty, teacher, mother and mother’s best friend have already messed me enough with their concept of advice and life hacks,  why should I go back and add to the party?

But now that the fifth cup of coffee has gone in, I realize I do go back. Every time the adult me faces a bad moment I look within I see an inner child fighting a monster…  I have learnt my fairy tales well I know monsters exist and it is possible to beat them. The inner child needs the assurance of the magical mentor to fight the monster the adult me is that mentor who stands by her defending champion.

Each time my inner child plays up… I go into a trance and invite the rebelling/ hurt child up  and then assure the child

I  love you  unconditionally – because right from childhood approval has mixed with love, and approval also has jumbled with deserve-ability.I hear you – this was a tough one, “quit crying  or I will give you something to cry about” we told when were growing up , I remember my grandma telling don’t shed tears in front of people you are handing them your weakness. But now I tell my inner child okay I hear you and you are perfectly right in what you say how would you like to deal with it?You didn’t deserve it… no matter how much we were bullied we were always asked “what did you do? People do not hit just for the heck of it” . when people care about you they scold you or beat you, others laugh at you. can you imagine how confusing it is to believe that the person who is beating you cares for you, and the person who is gentle and caring actually is a wolf in sheep’s clothing waiting to devour you JIt is okay to rest… everyone needs down time; to repair and rejuvenate it is not necessary to physically break to rest.I forgive you .Thank you for not giving up on me and more importantly thank you for trusting me with your hurt we can now tackle it together through hypnodrama , it can be as blood thirsty and wicked the idea is achieving resolution.You did your best.

With this conversation the inner child is willing to integrate and move on.  coming back to advising my younger self I do not I only empower the inner child in me to resolve her issue just the way she wants it resolved to hell with rest of world.

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