Before getting further into the explanation, here is the categorization of the parties involved in the process of arranged marriage and their link to the job interview process.
Bride's Parents – Human Resource Managers
Bride – Project Manager
Bride's Uncle, Elder Brother or Sister – Interview panelists
Bride's Grandparents – On-site or offshore client
This is the first round of selection in the process of arranged marriage. The process usually goes like this – horoscope from the groom's parents are shared with a third party marriage bureau and the agents working over there match the horoscope with the list of matches they have in their database. The horoscope plays a major part in the preliminary selection. Indian parents solely trust on how the horoscope is designed and they act according to it. Even if the bride is super good looking or some big shot, if the horoscope doesn't match then they're rejected. This is exactly similar to the process of filtering resumes for a job interview process. The candidate may be super intelligent or have honors in Biochemistry or Astrophysics, but if he chooses to apply for a job as a software developer or any other position in IT, he will be outrightly rejected at the first place due to lack of experience. But, if he takes up any certifications and mentions it in his resume, even though chances of him getting selected are thin, there will be some hope that he will at least be chosen for the job interview. Same way, the selection of the groom depends on the number of matches between the bride's and the groom's horoscope. I believe the matches are measured on a scale of 1 to 10, with 10 being branded as the ‘perfect' match. Even though a groom's horoscope has acquired 10 matches with the bride's, the chances of him getting married to her are thin, but there will be some hope that he will at least be chosen to have a discussion with her. Period.
Telephonic Interview
This is the second round of the selection process. In this stage, it's not the groom but his parents are involved as a part of the telephonic interview. Once the horoscope is matched, the marriage bureau agents will pass that on to the bride's parents. There will be a second round of horoscope analysis made by the bride's parents and once they are convinced that it is legit, they proceed to make a call to the candidate – in this case, it's groom's dad (hail male chauvinism!). This is by far the toughest round in the entire process as the main candidate is groom's dad. The poor guy has to answer a series of questions like ‘what does the groom do, where does the groom work, how much does he earn, what does groom's dad do, do they own a house, do they own a car, do they own a luxurious villa in the heart of Abu Dhabi, blah, blah, blah'. Once this is done, there are possibilities that the groom's mother might also get interrogated (I'm sorry, but, I feel that's the apt word). Once the interrogation aka questionnaire is done, the bride's parents will weigh out the pros and cons. If the pros outweigh the cons, then the candidate is surely moved on to the next level, else he is rejected.
Technical Interview
This is the third round of the selection process. This will be mostly telephonic and very rarely gets converted to a face to face interview. Here the bride aka the project manager will have a discussion directly with the groom over the telephone. There will be a hell lot of questions and discussion that goes like, ‘tell me about yourself, what are your current projects, blah, blah, what are your hobbies, oh you like cooking, blah, blah, I have no idea who Christopher Nolan is, blah, blah, blah.' The poor guy has to strive hard to make a positive impression on the bride. He needs to be extra cautious and be himself while answering or asking questions. One mistake and he has to go through the entire process again from the start (duh!), and of course with a different person.
Face to Face Interview
This is the fourth round of the selection process. Once the groom gets to this round, he should take some deep breaths and make sure he is not hyper excited because the chances of him getting selected will get worse if the interview panelists are some tough lads. The panelists are mostly bride along with one of her parents (mostly dad – remember earlier I hinted you about male chauvinism), bride's uncle and elder brother (sometimes elder sister as well). 99.9% of these interviews end with ‘we will get back to you', which sometimes means ‘fuck off, we will opt for a better candidate'.
HR Interview
Offer Letter vs Engagement
Once the groom clears all the formal process, he will be handed an offer letter which he needs to sign in order to accept it. The process of signing the offer is carried out on a grand scale on a special day and the event is felicitated by a few parties (or witnesses) from the bride's and groom's side. Even if the groom gets to this stage, the chances of him getting married to the bride are 75-25. This is similar to the guy accepting an offer from a company will have all the right to withdraw that offer few days to few weeks before his joining date. This can happen if the guy is no longer interested to work, or if he got a better opportunity, or if the company to which he applied went bankrupt.